- Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:33:26 pm
#7270
There is a very good argument that you played the best social game of anyone on the entire season. Do you feel like you played the best social game out of everyone and why? Another question, how were you able to get your allies to not flip on you when it was probably the better choice for their game (ie. Ryan, Simone) Was it their decision alone or did you have to convince them (if so how?)
Honestly, I believe I played the second best social game behind Cole. I think that Cole had the same connections that I had except he was able to cover them up by having this affair with Julie which made people think he was volatile. However, I still remember just casually talking to Roark, who mind you, told me that she was not happy with the way Cole treated Julie and she didn't want to work with someone like that, but then comes to me a few days later saying how Cole was not the same person that Julie made him out to be and then proceeds to make a groupchat with Cole/Patrick/myself in it with her. Cole just used his feud as a sort of self-made shield to cover up the real game he had going on underneath.
But beyond Cole, I do believe I played a great social game as well. Like I mentioned in previous posts, it's astonishing how just getting to know people and talking about them regarding non-game things can go a long way. I never talked game with Roark before she was officially in the game and she ended up giving me immunity simply because we connected on a personal basis. I believe the social game can only be as good as you are at connecting with people on a real genuine basis. Having the friendship/connection as a base, you can then use that bond to leverage yourself in strategic positions and thus make moves without having to worry about having immunity. Obviously, this strategy can backfire since if you're friends with everyone, eventually you're going to have to someone out. However, the strategical justification for this is you gotta do whatever moves you further in the game and I'm sitting here so I believe I did what I had to do in the best manner that I know how.
As for making sure my allies didn't flip on me, it's kind of a difficult question. Obviously this is Survivor, so you can never trust anyone 100%. But I just look back at what I said above and the same holds true for me. I look for people with two things: the first is for who I believe I truly connect with on a personal basis and the second is for who I believe are loyal people. When you combine those two qualities, you find people who you can 'trust' in a game as untrustworthy as this. Obviously there are other factors that feed into this such as if the people who fulfill these 'requirements' are big targets in everyone else's eyes or if they're at odds with each other, etc. For example, I mentioned how I knew Cole probably would turn on me at some point; however, he was aligned with Patrick and Simone who I believed were two people I truly trusted and believed would be as loyal to me as I was to them. I got along swimmingly with Cole and so sometimes you have to take risks with who you trust and Cole definitely was a great partner in crime to have even if I didn't fully believe he would be entirely loyal to me in the long run.
At the end of the day, it's a high risk high reward situation. The more you're willing to branch out and trust other people, the more you're potentially going to benefit, but also the more you risk screwing up. It also involves a mutual relationship where you work together on an even-playing field rather than one person just telling a bunch of people what to do (which is what my perception of Christina with you and Ali was like - Christina calling you a loser is not gonna make you more receptive to staying with her long-term). If you allow your allies to sometimes dictate the vote, they're more likely to want to remain allies with you since you don't just step all over them. Christina keeps calling people lapdogs and saying you gotta play your own game, but at the same time, if you don't respect the people you're loyal to and sometimes allow them to take the reigns or take the reigns together, then they're more likely to feel unwanted and flip on you. It's a very difficult thing to balance, but I believe I did as good of a job I could do at creating genuine allies who were both willing to go to rocks for me and tie the vote for me at the final four.
In addition to all that, sometimes it's just best to be honest with people because if you're honest with someone when you're against them, they're more likely to trust you when you're with them. This is the situation that happened with Ryan. Multiple times in the game I heard that he was coming after me. So instead of trying to circumvent it, I straight out confronted him and half the time it was a misunderstanding and we were able to work forward together. Don't get me wrong, Ryan was a sneaky rat at times, but once we both aired our grievances against each other, it was much easier to work together. I even told him at the Final 4 that I couldn't vote Simone out if Christina won immunity because I'd been with her and she's proven her loyalty to me since the swap. Not only did this more likely make Ryan respect me (it's probably one of the big reasons why he was okay going to the tiebreaker), but then Simone mutually feels obligated to do the same for me.
I hope that answered your question!